Compassionate Inquiry®: Getting Curious With Kindness
Have you ever noticed yourself reacting in ways you don’t fully understand? Patterns that repeat, even when you wish they wouldn’t?
Maybe you feel a bit disconnected from yourself. Or you notice you’re carrying beliefs that don’t quite feel like your own.
I did, for years. And once I started looking into this heaviness, everything started to shift.
Growing up in a patriarchal family, I learned that women weren’t important—that they just needed to follow and listen. I carried this belief, among others, for decades.
I survived by seeking validation in relationships that mirrored my childhood, by numbing myself with substances so I didn’t have to feel the screaming voice of that little child inside of me.
Een woordje uitleg over Compassionate Inquiry.
“Het doel van Compassionate Inquiry (CI) is om door te dringen tot de kernverhalen die mensen zichzelf vertellen – om hen te laten zien welk verhaal ze zichzelf onbewust vertellen; wat die overtuigingen zijn, waar ze vandaan komen; en hen begeleiden naar de mogelijkheid om die verhalen los te laten, of de greep die de verhalen op hen hebben los te laten ….” ~ Dr. Gabor Maté
Dit proces van bewustwording opent onze ogen voor de verschillende manieren waarop we onszelf zien, afwijzen, bekritiseren of veroordelen. Wanneer we een medelevende en accepterende relatie met onszelf ontwikkelen, komen we tot een dieper begrip van onze emoties, gedragingen, patronen en verschillende aspecten van onze persoonlijkheid. Hierdoor kunnen we beginnen met het transformeren van onze emotionele wonden. Dit brengt ons niet alleen tot een diepgaandere en mededogendere relatie met onszelf, maar leidt ons ook naar de kern van onze ware essentie. Als we ons bewust worden van de oorsprong van onze emoties en gedragingen, zetten we de eerste stappen naar het begrijpen en helen van de diepere wortels van onze problemen.
Tijdens een CI-sessie doen we aan een diepgaand en medelevend zelfonderzoek.
We worden bewust gemaakt van onze gedachten, emoties en lichamelijke sensaties. Met andere woorden … We observeren onszelf, zonder oordeel.
“You can respond instead of react.” – Gabor Maté
Wie kan er baat bij hebben?
Mensen met angsten, depressie, verslaving, relatieproblemen, agressie en woede, uitstelgedrag, overspannen, burnout, hechting problematiek, storende gedragspatronen, complexe posttraumatische stress, onverwerkte rouw, werk gerelateerde problemen, ADD/ADHD…
“Healing can’t just happen in the mind separately from the body. It cannot happen in the body separately from the mind. Trauma happened in some kind of a relationship. That means that healing needs to happen in relationship.”
Understanding Protection
Our reactions, beliefs, and behaviors once made sense. They protected us.
Maybe being small and quiet kept you safe as a child. Maybe always being the happy one, never complaining. Maybe numbing yourself helped you survive unbearable pain. Maybe seeking validation was the only way to feel worthy.
Compassionate Inquiry invites us to look at these patterns with self-compassion. Not as flaws or weaknesses, but as strategies that once served us.
We Don’t Just Carry Our Own Stories
We inherit more than genetics. We inherit silences, ways of responding to conflict, beliefs about worthiness, safety, and belonging.
Compassionate Inquiry gently invites us to notice these intergenerational patterns, to see what we’ve been carrying that was never ours to begin with, and—if we wish—to choose what we want to keep and what we’re ready to release.
The Practice of Witnessing
There is something powerful in being seen without judgment, without needing to fix or advise.
When someone witnesses us with compassion, we remember we are not broken. We are human, carrying what humans carry.
In Compassionate Inquiry, we practice a different kind of listening. We hold space for what arises without changing it. In this safety, things can unfold naturally
What Compassionate Inquiry Isn’t
- It’s not about getting the “right” insight or having a breakthrough
- It’s not about digging up trauma or forcing feelings
- It’s not about being told what your patterns mean or what you should do
- It’s not about giving you answers
- It’s not about having an agenda
Compassionate Inquiry® trusts your own process. You are the expert on your experience. The practice simply offers space and gentle questions to guide you in understanding yourself more deeply. All the answers are within you.
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